How do we know if it’s time to lower our expectations? How do we lower our expectations so that we are not constantly getting disappointed, hurt and let down because we’ve decided to keep a person in our life thinking they will change but they never do?
This is something that takes practice and as with most things in life there are times we have to do hard things. I’m going to be sharing professional and personal wisdom on this topic in today’s episode and some of my own experiences in hopes of helping you lower your own expectations of others and live a happier life.
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Having a chronic illness is hard.. more so if you are a mother who needs to take care of her family and kids. It can affect and impact, not only you, but your whole family.
If you have a chronic illness, it’s important to know how you can talk to your children about it and how it may affect them. It is important to be open and honest without making your child feel any unnecessary worry. In this episode I share my experience with parenting my two boys while having chronic Lyme disease. Even though I talk about my experience parenting with Lyme Disease, what you will learn in the episode is applicable to any chronic illness you may be suffering from.
I hope by listening you will learn to be kinder to yourself, engage in a higher level of self-care, learn ways to talk to your children about chronic illness, and find more ways of living your life to the fullest, despite having a chronic illness. I want you to know that you are not alone in this, Mama.
Lyme Disease is something that is very close to my heart and one thing that I’m very passionate about sharing. And it’s because I have it. To this day, I still struggle with sharing my story. But I have found that I have helped a lot of people when I shared the mental and physical hardships I went through and am going through, especially during the time that I was trying to get a diagnosis.
This is going to be a 2-part episode. Today, I will share my story of Lyme disease, how I received the diagnosis, and what I have been through to get where I am now. Next week, I will be talking about how to parent a child while suffering from a chronic illness.
If you or someone you know has this disease, I want you to know that you are not alone. My journey has not been easy and I want to share it with you today in the hopes that it will help you or someone you love.
Temperaments of strong-willed children can change at a moment’s notice. One minute they are fine and the next minute they’re angry and defiant. Parenting a strong-willed child is a challenge. I feel for parents, especially single parents, who are doing this on their own. I want you to know that you are not alone.
I’ve dealt with this professionally and personally. A lot of parents come in to see me asking for strategies and coping mechanisms for dealing with a strong-willed child. I also have a strong-willed child myself, Lucas, my 5-year old son and I am going to share this story with you as well.
I hope that the personal experiences, examples and tips I share with you today will give you the strength to keep going. It is something you can manage. If you are equipped with the right parenting style, the best strategies and lots of patience, it is a temperament that you can change. It may take a long time, it may be hard, but it is possible.
In the previous episode I talked about setting boundaries and touched on what energy vampires and toxic people are. This time we are going to focus our conversation on those people.
Letting go of these energy vampires isn’t always easy because sometimes (if not most of the time) these people are our relatives, closest friends, or people we love. But I can tell you right now, no one has ever regretted letting go of a toxic person in their life.
It may not be an option for you to let go, but it is an option for you to set firm boundaries that will make you feel lighter and happier. So today, I want to share with you how you can identify and recognize energy vampires in your life and what you can do with them once you know who they are and what they do to you.
Setting boundaries is not an easy thing to do. I know because I am a people pleaser. I struggle with being assertive and telling people how I feel or think because I don’t want them to dislike or get mad at me. BUT I also know that it is super important for me to set boundaries in my life.
There will almost always be people who take advantage of us or deplete our energy. This is the reason why we need to set boundaries. We want to feel better and not be dragged in by negativity. Remember, we teach people how to treat us. It’s all up to us to set the limit.
I also believe that it’s hard to engage in self-care when we don’t set good boundaries in our life. I could spend weeks talking about this topic. But for today, I’m going to be giving you an overview to, hopefully, help you stop your struggle with setting boundaries in your life.
Self-care is something that many women and moms struggle with. This is actually one of the main reasons why I created Mama Shrink. I am passionate about helping moms focus on taking care of themselves.
More often than not, it’s so hard to find time for ourselves as moms, more so engage in self-care. I’ve struggled with this myself - believe me! I want to be open and honest with you and let you know that you are not alone. I’ve worked so hard to overcome it. It’s not easy but it’s something that’s so important to do in your life, even for just 5 to 10 minutes a day.
Remember mama, there is always time. We all get the same 24 hours a day but we just have to be better in figuring out how to use it.
I really want moms to feel confident about self-care because my belief is you can’t really be a great mom if you can’t take care of yourself. So, I am sharing with you why self-care is so important and how to start it in your life today:
This is going to be a longer message today but I feel it is important to share with you in case you are dealing with a chronic illness or Chronic Lyme Disease like I am. Or if you know someone who is, please share this. As a mother, this can be a difficult and lonely journey. As a psychologist, I want to share the truth about the mental health pieces of Lyme that are often overlooked. I dealt with having heart surgery at the age of 21 from an eating disorder. After that happened and I was lucky enough to survive, I thought I would be able to deal with any illness that came my way. I had no idea what Lyme could do to someone….
Let me start by saying that I have no memory of ever having a tick bite. I spend a lot of time outside but I never found a tick on my body, nor did I develop the traditional bulls-eye ring, which is believed to be the “tell tale sign” that you have been bitten by a tick. After researching this more thoroughly, only about 60 percent of people...
If you have a child who is strong-willed, it can feel very lonely. I’m here to tell you that you are not alone. I have one of these children myself. I love him to death, but if you have been following me, you will know it’s not easy and you’re hearing from a trained psychologist that has been practicing for over 20 years.
Getting your child to listen and follow the rules can be difficult, especially if you have been a bit too lax in your parenting or too stern in your parenting. The goal is to be somewhere right in the middle. The good news is that it is never too late to change.
This blog post was created for all you mamas that have a strong-willed child to parent,
but I think it can be a useful resource for all you mamas out there. Let me start by discussing the three main types of parenting in the simplest way:
Permissive: You let your child makes the rules and you tend to not follow through
with punishments. You give your child too much freedom and do not set...