Happy December, Mamas! Time flew by so fast this year, I don’t even know where the year has gone. In a few weeks we’re bringing in a new year and a new decade which is pretty cool.
In this episode today, I really want to focus on the importance of community and finding your peeps. One of the hardest but most common things I see in my practice is a lack of community and social support between people. It is hard and lonely to be in that space because as humans, we are biologically wired for connection.
This is why finding a group or community you can belong to is so important. I have my group of peeps: other moms, my business associates, and some on-line groups that I pay to be part of. These are like-minded people who share the same values I have and it makes me feel supported. So I am hoping by the end of this episode, you realize and see the importance of creating community in your life and strive to find a group of your own peeps.
[05:0] Humans are social creatures...
Happy Thanksgiving, Mamas! In today’s podcast I want to share my personal story and journey of how Mama Shrink became a mama. This is my holiday miracle and the one I am always most grateful so it felt good to share it on a day that is all about giving thanks. I get asked a lot about adoption, especially when people see us with our 2 boys who are both bi-racial.
I am sensitive in sharing this story from my perspective as my kids will someday have their own adoption story. There are parts of my journey removed to protect their birthmother’s and things that I am not comfortable sharing publically.
Adoption is a whole other level of becoming a mom. It’s very different from how other women become moms in terms of trying to get pregnant and being able to conceive. I often refer to it as an emotional rollercoaster because there are so many highs and lows and unknowns that being able to conceive does not bring.
My boys were meant to be mine....I know that for sure. In...
Holidays can be a really stressful time because we deal with so many events and gatherings. Most people go through stress, depression, and many unwanted feelings especially during this season. My goal on this episode is to make the holiday season a bit more enjoyable for you and give you tips on how to get through the holidays happier and less stressed.
Often, people have this vision and misconception that everyone or the people around them are all having the time of their lives and everything runs so smoothly during the holidays. We only see the outside or maybe what is posted on social media. But in dealing with people as a psychologist for many years, I can tell you that for the most part, this isn’t true. I can honestly say that about 90% of families don’t have it all together.
Before I start the episode I just want to let you know I will be launching a workshop course called “Releasing Mama Guilt” which will help you dive deeper into feeling more...
Change and growth may be one of the things that we are most fearful of in life. Going through it is hard, uncomfortable and requires so much effort. But I totally believe that you can do it… anyone can do it. I know because I’ve been through this too. It takes a lot of courage and overcoming our fears.
In this episode, I’m going to be talking about mindset, overcoming the fear of change, and why change and growth are so difficult in the hopes that it will help you or someone you know if you are going through this phase in your life.
Before I start the episode I just want to let you know that instead of launching my 6-week course “Happy Momma, Happy Child” in December, I will be launching a workshop course where you can get to know me better as a coach and teacher to see if we’re a good fit. We’ll dive into the topic of momma guilt in one day, cover a lot in a few hours and give you live coaching with me. This will be launching on the 2nd...
I would like to dive into the concept of mindset shifting in the next 2 episodes of the Mama Shrink Podcast because I feel that this is such a big thing. It’s one thing to think about something in a certain way and it’s a whole different level when you really believe what you’re talking about. This comes down to the whole concept of the biology of belief.
So today, I’m going to talk about self-sabotage. What is it, how do we do it, and why we do it. I have personally engaged in self sabotaged throughout my life and have seen this cycle in many women that I have worked with over the years. I share about this in order to help you move out of this vicious cycle and become a happier mom and woman.
But before I start the podcast, I just want to share that my new free E-book on Ending Mama Guilt is now available on my website at mamashrink.com. It’s super fun and has lots of action-based activities for you to find happiness, set boundaries and engage in...
Assertiveness is a challenge for a lot of people including myself. Over the years, I have gotten much better with being assertive but I am still a work in progress.
So many women struggle and worry about appearing mean or nasty if they attempt to be assertive. My goal for this episode is to make you realize that if we do not become assertive, we may end up hurting ourselves in the long-run. So being assertive is really important in our lives and in our relationships with others.
Before I start the episode, I want to share that my new Ebook “Ending Mama Guilt: How to Find Happiness, Set Boundaries, and Engage in Self-Care without Guilt” is now available for free. Head on over to www.mamashrink.com to grab your copy now. If you know someone else that could benefit from this book, please feel free to share the link with them.
Perfectionism is something that I’ve seen in so many patients that I treat as a psychologist. I was also a perfectionist myself and now call myself a “perfectionist in recovery.” I have struggled with it and I also see so much of it in other women which is why I decided to talk about it in today’s episode.
I’ll be breaking perfectionism down for you to help you let go of this epidemic that can destroy not only you, but the people you around you as well. So it’s super important to be able to be aware of it and then let it go. It’s not an easy thing to do but it’s something you can always work towards.
Before I start the episode, I want to share that my new ebook “Ending Mama Guilt: How to Find Happiness, Set Boundaries, and Engage in Self-Care without Guilt” is now out for free. Head over to mamashrink.com to grab your own copy now.
The dreaded mommy guilt is so prevalent, difficult, and happens to all us moms. Being a mom isn’t an easy job, having a job while being a mom is twice the heartache. I hope this episode helps you to alleviate your mama guilt by helping you realize that you don’t need to feel guilty for wanting or needing to do what we need to do in order to take care of our children and ourselves.
Guilt doesn’t serve us and it’s very hard for us to cope with it. I have experienced mommy guilt myself many times. I’m going to be sharing with you some of the things I’ve done to alleviate my own guilt, while sharing my professional knowledge in this area.
Communicating with our kids is one of the topics I often deal with at work. I’ve spoken to many parents and children and this is a common problem I encounter. It struck me how many parents are worried about their kids making friends, dealing with peer pressure, and all the struggles that come along with the new school year.
It doesn’t matter what age they are, it’s a tough time for kids to navigate when their brains are still developing. Some teens shut down from their parents because they feel they aren’t understood. And for all kids, it is our job as their mom to make them feel validated and heard.
I hope this episode will help you communicate more effectively with your child and get your child to open up and want to talk with you.
[05:08] Embrace self-confidence. Our children watch us and model our behavior. Show and tell them what confidence looks like.
Self-esteem is one of those terms that gets thrown out a lot. According to studies, it is something that is built within us starting from childhood and solidifies around the age of twenty-one (unless you work on changing it). In simplistic terms it refers to “how much we like ourselves or not.” There are so many people who lack self-esteem and/or don’t like themselves.
There is so much information I could share on this topic but for the purpose of this episode I am going to share some quick tips and tricks that you can implement starting today. A word of warning, this is not an easy process. Change is hard but it’s possible. I believe everyone has the ability to change if you want something bad enough.
Hopefully, some of the information I share with you in this episode will make sense and resonate with you to help you start improving your self-esteem.