The dreaded mommy guilt is so prevalent, difficult, and happens to all us moms. Being a mom isn’t an easy job, having a job while being a mom is twice the heartache. I hope this episode helps you to alleviate your mama guilt by helping you realize that you don’t need to feel guilty for wanting or needing to do what we need to do in order to take care of our children and ourselves.
Guilt doesn’t serve us and it’s very hard for us to cope with it. I have experienced mommy guilt myself many times. I’m going to be sharing with you some of the things I’ve done to alleviate my own guilt, while sharing my professional knowledge in this area.
Communicating with our kids is one of the topics I often deal with at work. I’ve spoken to many parents and children and this is a common problem I encounter. It struck me how many parents are worried about their kids making friends, dealing with peer pressure, and all the struggles that come along with the new school year.
It doesn’t matter what age they are, it’s a tough time for kids to navigate when their brains are still developing. Some teens shut down from their parents because they feel they aren’t understood. And for all kids, it is our job as their mom to make them feel validated and heard.
I hope this episode will help you communicate more effectively with your child and get your child to open up and want to talk with you.
[05:08] Embrace self-confidence. Our children watch us and model our behavior. Show and tell them what confidence looks like.
Self-esteem is one of those terms that gets thrown out a lot. According to studies, it is something that is built within us starting from childhood and solidifies around the age of twenty-one (unless you work on changing it). In simplistic terms it refers to “how much we like ourselves or not.” There are so many people who lack self-esteem and/or don’t like themselves.
There is so much information I could share on this topic but for the purpose of this episode I am going to share some quick tips and tricks that you can implement starting today. A word of warning, this is not an easy process. Change is hard but it’s possible. I believe everyone has the ability to change if you want something bad enough.
Hopefully, some of the information I share with you in this episode will make sense and resonate with you to help you start improving your self-esteem.
Why is there a need for us to reparent ourselves? A lot of times, we come from a background where there was physical abuse, sexual abuse, or neglect. You may have experienced it yourself or witnessed it. This podcast can bring up a lot of heavy feelings and if and if it does, please consider finding a trained therapist in your area that specializes in working with trauma or past childhood wounds.
I hope this podcast will allow you to become free from feeling like a victim and empower you. If we stay in victim mentality then we are still allowing the people or person who hurt us to win. And I don’t want you to pass on what happened to you to your children. Sometimes we need to reparent ourselves and fulfill our unmet needs which will allow us to enjoy our current life.
This is not an easy task and it will take time. I hope by listening you will take some first steps towards reparenting yourself. You can be whole again and you don’t need to stay stuck in the past.
Before we start, I’m super excited to let you know that I am launching my first course called “Happy Momma = Happy Child.” It is designed to help all you moms take care of yourself so you can be the best possible mama! I would like to invite you to be a part of the beta launch of this life-changing course. I am giving out a huge discount - it’s the one and only time I’m offering it for half the price! If you are interested, get on my waitlist for it at [email protected] or on my website, mamashrink.com. As soon as the webinars are announced, you will be the first to know.
So, on to today’s episode I am going to discuss Burnout. I get so many questions about this topic. I have worked with many people in therapy over the years and one of the things I see a lot of is burnout. And it is often a sneaky thing that people don’t even know they are suffering from it. In my own life, I’ve experienced burnout. And trust me, It’s...
How do we know if it’s time to lower our expectations? How do we lower our expectations so that we are not constantly getting disappointed, hurt and let down because we’ve decided to keep a person in our life thinking they will change but they never do?
This is something that takes practice and as with most things in life there are times we have to do hard things. I’m going to be sharing professional and personal wisdom on this topic in today’s episode and some of my own experiences in hopes of helping you lower your own expectations of others and live a happier life.
But before we get started, I wanted to let you know that my course “Happy Momma, Happy Child” which is designed to help you become a better woman and momma will soon be coming out soon. I would like to invite you to be a part of the beta launch of this life-changing course. To get details and and join the wait list please head over mamashrink.com today.
Having a chronic illness is hard.. more so if you are a mother who needs to take care of her family and kids. It can affect and impact, not only you, but your whole family.
If you have a chronic illness, it’s important to know how you can talk to your children about it and how it may affect them. It is important to be open and honest without making your child feel any unnecessary worry. In this episode I share my experience with parenting my two boys while having chronic Lyme disease. Even though I talk about my experience parenting with Lyme Disease, what you will learn in the episode is applicable to any chronic illness you may be suffering from.
I hope by listening you will learn to be kinder to yourself, engage in a higher level of self-care, learn ways to talk to your children about chronic illness, and find more ways of living your life to the fullest, despite having a chronic illness. I want you to know that you are not alone in this, Mama.
Lyme Disease is something that is very close to my heart and one thing that I’m very passionate about sharing. And it’s because I have it. To this day, I still struggle with sharing my story. But I have found that I have helped a lot of people when I shared the mental and physical hardships I went through and am going through, especially during the time that I was trying to get a diagnosis.
This is going to be a 2-part episode. Today, I will share my story of Lyme disease, how I received the diagnosis, and what I have been through to get where I am now. Next week, I will be talking about how to parent a child while suffering from a chronic illness.
If you or someone you know has this disease, I want you to know that you are not alone. My journey has not been easy and I want to share it with you today in the hopes that it will help you or someone you love.
Temperaments of strong-willed children can change at a moment’s notice. One minute they are fine and the next minute they’re angry and defiant. Parenting a strong-willed child is a challenge. I feel for parents, especially single parents, who are doing this on their own. I want you to know that you are not alone.
I’ve dealt with this professionally and personally. A lot of parents come in to see me asking for strategies and coping mechanisms for dealing with a strong-willed child. I also have a strong-willed child myself, Lucas, my 5-year old son and I am going to share this story with you as well.
I hope that the personal experiences, examples and tips I share with you today will give you the strength to keep going. It is something you can manage. If you are equipped with the right parenting style, the best strategies and lots of patience, it is a temperament that you can change. It may take a long time, it may be hard, but it is possible.
In the previous episode I talked about setting boundaries and touched on what energy vampires and toxic people are. This time we are going to focus our conversation on those people.
Letting go of these energy vampires isn’t always easy because sometimes (if not most of the time) these people are our relatives, closest friends, or people we love. But I can tell you right now, no one has ever regretted letting go of a toxic person in their life.
It may not be an option for you to let go, but it is an option for you to set firm boundaries that will make you feel lighter and happier. So today, I want to share with you how you can identify and recognize energy vampires in your life and what you can do with them once you know who they are and what they do to you.